Monday, March 31, 2008

A FUNNY THING HAPPENED ON THE WAY TO THE BOOZE CRUISE

PORTLAND--A funny thing happened today on way to the AAC Booze Crooze...

I ran into Helen Hill!

Wednesday morning I headed out bright and early on the TriMet into Portland to meet up with the AAC folks at the hotel to take the lunch cruise down the Williamette River. I don't know Portland well, but had very exact instructions courtesy of BB Church, on how to get to the Mariott in plenty of time. These instructions, of course, didn't take into consideration that along the way the train would be evacuated due to what TriMet charmingly called "a biohazard." Anthrax? A dirty bomb? Lasa fever? Hmmm, no! A passenger puked in her seat. So somewhere in the vicinity of Pioneer Square the conductor ordered us all off the train. (MOOOOOO!!!!!!!! Back in Columbus such an activity would have met with a few "euuusssss" and everybody would have just moved over. )

Bastardette dutifully got on the "next train" without noticing that it was the Yellow Line NOT the Blue Line that would take her to the hotel. (She only noticed that later.) As I pulled out Ellery Queens's Siamese Twins Mystery and made myelf confortable I looked up with a double-take. Sitting across me was the Supreme Bastard Goddess. Ballot Measure 58 petitioner, organizer, and hero! The woman who took history by the horns and threw it on our side.

Helen?

Marley?

Helen

Marley

Needless to say, I missed the cruise, but spent some short but quality time with Helen. Unfortunately, no one had bothered to tell her that the AAC was meeting in Portland or that Measure 58 was being celebrated that weekend. I told her she should just show up. Helen isn't as pushy as I. She didn't. And what a class act she remains!

Sunday, March 30, 2008

BLOGGERS DINE IN PORTLAND!


PORTLAND--I haven't gotten around to blogging about the AAC Portland conference as I planned, but hopefully tomorrow...In the meantime here's a group picture of disruptive adopta bloggers taken at Old Wives Tales during our Saturday evening exparte celebration.

Bastardette, Heather, Sarah, Dawn Friedman, BB Church and Jan Baker.
Photo by Noah

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

ITS ALL ABOUT SENSITIVE ADOPTERS: FRENCH FRIES HARM ADOPTEES

A new McDonald's "adoption-themed" commercial featuring a conversation between a bag of French fries and chocolate parfait (could I make this up?) has worked up sensitive adopters and agency hacks into a tizzy of hyperbole. How dare McDonald's "ridicule" the great American pastime of family building for the desperately childless? After viewing the vicious personal attack on his/her family on YouTube, one dismayed child acquisionist froths "The assumption behind the ad is that you can't be a family if you don't look alike and that something is wrong with being adopted (as witnessed by the "stunned silence" of the french fries.")

Stunned silence of the french fries???

Another ventilates: "I hope my two wonderful boys (both adopted) never have to see this commercial on TV. I hope their birth parents never have to see it either. Being adopted isn't something to be embarrassed about or to make jokes about. It's about love."

This must explain why the original birth certificates of adoptees remain sealed in 45 states. Or how 13 Russian "orphans" are now dead at the hands of their new forever families.

These all-about-me sob sisters are the same people who in the last few years have consigned any adopta thing they can't control: Adopt-a programs (highway, donkey, cow, teacher) Stuart Little, Meet the Robinsons, Who's Your Daddy, and the Middleton Doll Company to the far corridors of the Adoption Hall of Shame for " demeaning" adoptees and adoption.

Unlike say sealed adoption records, baby dumps, trashing fathers rights, locking first mothers away in maternity camps, international child trafficking, pedo adoption rings, re-homing schemes, the National Council for Adoption, A Child's Waiting, murdered and abused Russian adoptees, Masha Allen, crooked "adoption providers" lying to Congress--and the entire State of Utah.

Go here for the commercial and comments. Don't let it hurt your feelings!

Monday, March 24, 2008

HEADING FOR PORTLAND

Bastardette is heading out for Portland tomorrow for the annual AAC doo. I'll probably post some things from there but unfortunately some other things I intended to write about before I left will have to wait. I hope to meet some of my readers while I'm there. I'm not sure where I"ll be or what I'm' doing, but I'll be there the whole time, including the boat trip.

COLAGE FELLOWSIP PROGRAM: FOCUS ON TRANSRACIAL ADOPTION AND LGBTQ FAMILIES


COLAGE Fellowship Program: Focus on Transracial Adoption and LGBTQ Families

Do you have (or had) one or more LGBTQ parents?

Do you have personal experience with transracial adoption?

Do you want to build community and resources available to people transracially adopted by LGBTQ parents?

Come work at COLAGE and do groundbreaking work on youth with LGBTQ parents and transracial adoption

COLAGE is the only national organization working with our specific constituency, providing Fellows with a unique perspective on LGBTQ issues. Furthermore, as the lead staff on a new project to address the unique needs of transracially adopted COLAGErs (ie people with LGBTQ parents), the Transracial Adoption Fellow will have the chance to use their creativity and initiative to direct the project.

About COLAGE:

COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents. We build community and work toward social justice through youth empowerment, leadership development, education, and advocacy. Our office is based in San Francisco, CA and offers a unique opportunity to be part of a dynamic team.


"This fellowship allowed me to build upon my community organizing skills and to profoundly expand the breadth of my work in the COLAGE movement." – Monica Canfield-Lenfest, KOT Fellow, 2007-08

Preferred qualifications

· Significant knowledge and/or experience with youth who have LGBTQ parents and/or youth who were adopted transracially

· Outstanding interpersonal skills, ability to cultivate relationships with a variety of people; must have demonstrated cultural competence in working with diverse populations, including communities of color, adoptees, LGBTQ persons, persons of varying ages, socioeconomic backgrounds, health status and abilities;

· Commitment to diversifying organizations and building anti-racist and multicultural alliances;

· Experience working with and planning events for youth and/or families;

· Excellent oral, writing, research, listening, and organizational skills;

· Computer literate (especially on PC's), knowledge of Office 97/2000, FileMaker Pro, HTML, and desktop publishing programs a plus.

· Self-motivated, flexible, and full of initiative.

· People with LGBTQ parent/s especially folks who were transracially adopted.


Requirements

· Must be 18 or over. Undergraduate degree or equivalent experience preferred.

· Must be LGBTQ-positive.

· People of color, people who were transracially adopted, and people with LGBTQ parents especially encouraged to apply.

Compensation

Fellowship participants receive a stipend which will depend on the experience of the candidate and length of the fellowship.

How to Apply

Please mail, email, or fax us the following information:

1. Your resume;

2. A cover letter sharing your interest in working for COLAGE and qualifications for this fellowship;

Please address your application materials to COLAGE Fellowship Program.

We will meet with interested, qualified candidates to explore the possibility of the COLAGE Transracial Adoption Fellowship being a good match. We would like to identify our fellow by June but if you are interested, let us know as soon as possible as there are some funding/grant opportunities we would love to pursue with you. The fellowship will begin as early as September 2008 and run for 7-9 months. Applications will be accepted until the fellowship is filled.

Need more info? Want to apply?

COLAGE, 1550 Bryant Street, Suite 830, San Francisco, CA 94103

phone: 415-861-5437 fax (415) 255-8345, meredith@colage.org www.colage.org

Friday, March 21, 2008

ADOPTABLOGGERS AND FRIENDS WANTED IN PORTLAND!

Bastardette's friend, blogger Dawn Friedman (This Woman's Work), is organizing an informal adoptablogger-and-reader get-together in Portland, Oregon during the AAC conference next week. This is not an official AAC event. I'm sure that after sitting through presentations on adoptee "soul hunger," first mother menopause, and adoption "constellations" the more reality based will welcome the exparte break. If you're an adopta blogger or fan and will be at the AAC or live in the Portland area please join us. For more information or to let Dawn know you're interested in attending go here.

While I'm at it: if you're a Columbus, Ohio-area blogger (any topic) or blog about the Colmbus area, check out the Columbus Social Media Cafe and the Columbus Blog Directory and register your blog.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

CALLING ALL IRON CITY ADOPTEES AND FRIENDS! PITTSBURGH BOOK LAUNCH!

One of Bastaradette's favorite books, Reading Adoption: Family and Difference in Fiction and Drama by the always awesome Dr. Marianne Novy is now in paperback. Here is some information about its release:

The University of Pittsburgh Book Center cordially invites you to celebrate the paperback release of Reading Adoption: Family and Difference inFiction and Drama, by Marianne Novy, Thursday, March 27, from noon until 2 at the Pitt Book Center, 4000 Fifth Avenue. There will be a brief talk at12:30 and light refreshments. RSVP by March 20, if possible, to .



Praise for Reading Adoption:

“In Reading Adoption Marianne Novy takes us back to Oedipus, that quintessential adoptee, and to Shakespeare’s romance with parent-child reunions, as well as to orphans lost and found in modern English and American literature. And all the while she gives us insights into living adoption as she weaves her own story of reuniting with her birth mother, which is as absorbing as any of the fictional narratives she has guided us through.”
—Betty Jean Lifton, author of Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest For
Wholeness

“Profound and touching, deeply smart, the perfect blend of academic/intellectual and heartfelt humanity.”
—A.M. Homes, author of The Mistress’ Daughter and In the Country of Mothers

“A breath of fresh air…Illuminates the tension between families, birth and adoptive, that is always there, and is always much more complex than the all-nature or all-nurture camps try to make it…She makes us all question our dearly held myths and icons… makes us all think, not just feel, and . . she stretches our imagination to encompass the complexity and diversity of adoptees and adoption as it is lived. This is a groundbreaking book that should be read and discussed by all who are touched by adoption.”
—Mary Anne Cohen, editor of Origins, a birthmothers’ newsletter, in Bastard Quarterly

“Art imitates life and vice versa in Marianne Novy's thought-provoking, even-handed analysis of the classic plot device, from ancient Greece to the present: the abandoned child. Drawing on her own experiences as a person adopted in the 1940s and as a mother, along with her probing insight as an academic, Novy explores the evolving definitions of 'parent' throughout literature and history with sensitivity, wisdom, and fairness.”

Photo of Marianne Novy by Bastardette, AAC Wakefield, MA, March 10, 2007

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

THE SIMPLICITY OF LANGUAGE: SUCCESSFUL RECORDS ACCESS BILLS

Maine State Senator Paula Benoit believes that simplicity of language is the key to passage of records access bills.

She is correct. Compare the simplicity of language of Oregon Ballot Measure 58, Alabama HB 690, HB New Hampshire SB 335 and Maine LB 1084 to the convoluted 77-page Illinois HB 4623 with its plethora of forms, preferences and vetoes which would confound a busload of Chicago lawyers.

Would adopta-doyens Rep. Feigenholtz and Melisha Mitchell care to explain why it takes them 77 pages to write a bill that was covered in two sentences in Oregon, and only a couple pages in Alabama, New Hampshire and Maine? Where's the pork?

OREGON
Ballot Measure 58:
Upon receipt of a written application to the state registrar, any adopted person 21 years of age and older born in the state of Oregon shall be issued a certified copy of his/her unaltered, original and unamended certificate of birth in the custody of the state registrar, with procedures, filing fees, and waiting periods identical to those imposed upon non-adopted citizens of the State of Oregon pursuant to ORS 432.120 and 432.146. Contains no exceptions.



ALABAMA
HB 690
Rep(s). By Representatives Dolbare and Fuller


HB690

Engrossed
Under existing law, an adopted person born in the State of Alabama cannot obtain a copy of his or her original birth certificate absent a court order.This bill would provide that an adopted person, 19 years of age or older, born in the State of Alabama is entitled to obtain a copy of his or her original birth certificate upon written application to the State Registrar.
A BILL
TO BE ENTITLED
AN ACT

To amend Sections 22-9A-12, 26-10A-31, and 26-10A-32 of the Code of Alabama 1975, relating to birth certificates and identifying information for adopted persons born in the State of Alabama; to provide procedures for obtaining copies of original birth certificates; and to provide for an effective date of this act.

BE IT ENACTED BY THE LEGISLATURE OF ALABAMA:

Section 1. Sections 22-9A-12, 26-10A-31, and 26-10A-32 of the Code of Alabama 1975, are amended to read as follows:

§22-9A-12.

"(a) The State Registrar shall establish a new certificate of birth for a person born in this state upon receipt of any of the following:
"(1) A report of adoption as provided in Section 22-9A-11 or a report of adoption prepared and filed in accordance with the laws of another state, the District of Columbia, a territory of the United States, or a foreign country, or a certified copy of the decree of adoption, together with the information necessary to identify the original certificate of birth and to establish a new certificate of birth. A new certificate of birth shall not be established if so requested by the court decreeing the adoption.
"(2) A request that a new certificate be established upon completion of the legitimation procedure specified in Sections 26-11-2 and 26-17-6. If the name of another man is shown as the father of the child on the original certificate, a new certificate may be prepared only when a determination of paternity is made by a court of competent jurisdiction or following adoption.
"(3) A certified copy of a valid court determination of paternity that establishes the name of the father and decrees the name the child is to bear together with the information necessary to identify the original certificate of birth.

"(b) The new certificate of birth prepared as a result of subsection (a) shall be on the form in use at the time of its preparation and shall include all of the following items and other information necessary to complete the certificate:
"(1) The name of the child.
"(2) The actual place and date of birth as shown on the original certificate.
"(3) The names and personal particulars of the adoptive parents or of the natural parents, whichever is appropriate.
"(4) The name of the attendant.
"(5) The birth number assigned to the original birth certificate.
"(6) The original filing date.

"(c) The new certificate shall be substituted for the original certificate of birth in the files, and the original certificate of birth and the evidence of adoption, legitimation, or paternity determination shall not be subject to inspection except upon order of a court of competent jurisdiction.Notwithstanding the foregoing, any adopted person 19 years of age or older born in the State of Alabama, upon written application to the State Registrar, may receive a copy of his or her unaltered, original, and unamended certificate of birth. All procedures, fees, and waiting periods applicable to non-adopted citizens born in the State of Alabama seeking copies of certificates of birth shall apply. Notwithstanding the foregoing, any person 19 years of age or older who was born in the State of Alabama and who has had an original birth certificate removed from the files due to an adoption, legitimation, or paternity determination may, upon written request, receive a copy of that birth certificate and any evidence of the adoption, legitimation, or paternity determination held with the original record. The copy of the original birth certificate shall be in a form that clearly indicates it is not a certified copy and that it may not be used for legal purposes. All procedures, fees, and waiting periods applicable to non-adopted citizens born in the State of Alabama seeking copies of certificates of birth shall apply.

"(d) Upon receipt of a report of an amended decree of adoption, the certificate of birth shall be amended as provided in Section 22-9A-19.

"(e) Upon receipt of a report or decree of annulment of adoption, the original certificate of birth shall be restored to its place in the files and the new certificate and evidence shall not be subject to inspection except upon order of a court of competent jurisdiction or as specified by the board.

"(f) If no certificate of birth is on file for the person for whom a new birth certificate is to be established under this section, and the date and place of birth have been determined in the adoption or paternity proceedings, a delayed certificate of birth shall be filed with the State Registrar as provided in Section 22-9A-9 or Section 22-9A-10 before a new certificate of birth is established. The new birth certificate shall be prepared on the appropriate delayed birth certificate form.

"(g) When a new certificate of birth is established by the State Registrar, all copies of the original certificate of birth in the custody of any other party shall be forwarded to the State Registrar upon receipt of his or her request.

"(h)(1) The State Registrar shall, upon request, prepare and register a certificate in this state for a person born in a foreign country who is not a citizen of the United States and who was adopted through a court in this state. The certificate shall be established upon receipt of a report of adoption from the court decreeing the adoption, proof of the date and place of birth of the child, and a request from the court, the adopting parents, or the adopted person if 18 years of age or over that a certificate be prepared. The certificate shall be labeled "CERTIFICATE OF FOREIGN BIRTH" and shall show the actual country of birth. A statement shall also be included on the certificate indicating that it is not evidence of United States citizenship for the child for whom it is issued. After registration of the birth certificate in the new name of the adopted person, the State Registrar shall seal and file the report of adoption which shall not be subject to inspection except upon order of a court of competent jurisdiction or as provided by statute. The original certificate of birth shall not be available for inspection except as provided by statute. receive a copy of any information about the adoption held in files under the jurisdiction of the State Registrar.

"(2) If the child was born in a foreign country but was a citizen of the United States at the time of birth, the State Registrar shall not prepare a "CERTIFICATE OF FOREIGN BIRTH" and shall notify the adoptive parents of the procedures for obtaining a revised birth certificate for their child through the U.S. Department of State.

§26-10A-31.

"(a) After the petition is filed and prior to the entry of the final decree, the records in adoption proceedings shall be open to inspection only by the petitioner or his or her attorney, the investigator appointed under Section 26-10A-19, any attorney appointed for the adoptee under Section 26-10A-22, and any attorney retained by or appointed to represent the adoptee. Such records shall be open to other persons only upon order of court for good cause shown.

"(b) All hearings in adoption proceedings shall be confidential and shall be held in closed court without admittance of any person other than interested parties and their counsel, except with leave of court.

"(c) After the final decree of adoption has been entered, all papers, pleadings, and other documents pertaining to the adoption shall be sealed, kept as a permanent record of the court, and withheld from inspection except as otherwise provided in this section and in subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12. No person shall have access to such records except upon order of the court in which the decree of adoption was entered for good cause shown except as provided in subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12. Identifying information should not be given except with the consent of the parties in interest.

"(d) When the court issues the adoption order, all licensed agencies or individuals shall send a sealed information summary sheet and the non-identifying information referred to in subsection (g) in a separate summary sheet to the State Department of Human Resources. The following information shall be included:
"(1) Birthname and adoptive name;
"(2) Date and place of birth of person adopted, except in the case of abandonment;
"(3) Circumstances under which the child came to be placed for adoption;
"(4) Physical and mental condition of the person adopted, insofar as this can be determined by the aid of competent medical authority;
"(5) Name and last known address of natural parents, dates of birth and social security numbers, if known;
"(6) Age of the natural parents at child's birth;
"(7) Nationality, ethnic background, race, and religious preference of the natural parents;
"(8) Educational level of the natural parents;
"(9) Pre-adoptive brother/sister relationships;
"(10) Whether the identity and location of the natural father is known or ascertainable.

"(e) The State Department of Human Resources and the investigating agency's adoption records must be kept for a minimum term of 75 years. If a licensed child placing agency ceases to operate in Alabama, all adoption records of the agency, including those of the child, the natural family and the adoptive family, shall be transferred to the Department of Human Resources.

"(f) All Except as otherwise provided in this section and in subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12, all files of the investigating office or agency appointed by the court under Section 26-10A-19 shall be confidential and shall be withheld from inspection except upon order of the court for good cause shown.

"(g) Notwithstanding subsection (f) of this section, the State Department of Human Resources or the licensed investigating agency appointed by the court pursuant to Section 26-10A-19(b) and (c), shall furnish, upon request, to the petitioners, natural parents or an adoptee 19 years of age or older, nonidentifying information which shall be limited to the following:
"(1) Health and medical histories of the adoptee's natural parents;
"(2) The health and medical history of the adoptee;
"(3) The adoptee's general family background, including ancestral information, without name references or geographical designations;
"(4) Physical descriptions;
"(5) The length of time the adoptee was in the care and custody of one other than the petitioner; and
"(6) Circumstances under which child comes to be placed for adoption.

"(h) Notwithstanding subsection (f), if either the natural mother or the natural or presumed father have given consent in writing under oath to disclosure of identifying information, as defined in subsection (d) and which is not otherwise provided in this section and in subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12, the State Department of Human Resources or a licensed child placing agency shall release such identifying information including a copy of the birth certificate as it relates to the consenting parent to an adult adoptee when that adoptee reaches the age of 19.

"(i) If the court finds that any person has a compelling need for nonidentifying information not otherwise available under subsection (e) of this section which only can be obtained through contact with the adoptee, the adoptee's parents, an alleged or presumed father of the adoptee, or the adoptee's adoptive parents, the court shall direct the agency or a mutually agreed upon intermediary, to furnish such information or to establish contact with the adoptee, the adoptee's natural parents, the alleged or presumed father of the adoptee, or the adoptive parents of the adoptee in order to obtain the information needed without disclosure of identifying information to or about the applicant. Said information then shall be filed with the court and released to the applicant within the discretion of the court. However, the identity and whereabouts of the person or persons contacted shall remain confidential.

"(j) Notwithstanding any subsection of this section to the contrary, when an adult adoptee reaches the age of 19, the adoptee may petition the court for the disclosure of identifying information as defined in subsection (d) and which is not otherwise provided for in this section or in subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12, if a natural or presumed parent has not previously given consent under subsection (h). The court shall direct an intermediary to contact the natural parents to determine if the natural parents will consent to the release of their identity identifying information. If the natural parents consent to the release of their identity identifying information the court shall so direct. If the natural parents are deceased, cannot be found or do not consent to the release of the identifying information then the court shall weigh the interest and rights of all of the parties and determine if the identifying information should be released without the consent of the natural parents. Moreover, if the court releases the identifying information without the consent of the natural parents, the court may restrict the distribution and use of that information and may restrict or prohibit contact between the parties as the court determines to be fair and equitable.

§26-10A-32.

"(a) Within 10 days of the final decree being entered the judge or the clerk of the court shall send a copy of the final order to the Department of Human Resources and shall send a certificate of the final order of adoption to the State Registrar of Vital Statistics of the State Board of Health upon the form supplied by the state registrar for that purpose.

"(b) Upon receipt of copy of any final order of adoption the State Registrar of Vital Statistics shall cause to be made a new record of the birth in the new name and with the name or names of the adopting parent or parents as contained in the final decree. The state registrar shall then cause to be sealed and filed the original certificate of birth with the decree of the court.

"(c) After Except as otherwise provided by subsection (c) of Section 22-9A-12, after the new birth certificate has been issued, the original birth certificate and the evidence of adoption are not subject to inspection except upon order of the court for good cause shown."

Section 2. This act shall become effective on the first day of the third month following its passage and approval by the Governor, or its otherwise becoming law.



NEW HAMPSHIRE
SB 335

CHAPTER 99

SB 335 – FINAL VERSION

2004 SESSION



05/01

SENATE BILL 335

AN ACT relative to access to birth records.

SPONSORS: Sen. D’Allesandro, Dist 20

COMMITTEE: Public Institutions, Health and Human Services

ANALYSIS

This bill permits adult adoptees to obtain a copy of their original, unaltered birth certificate. It also permits a birth parent to express his or her preference regarding contact with the adoptee by filing a contact preference form with the registrar of vital records.

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Explanation: Matter added to current law appears in bold italics.

Matter removed from current law appears [in brackets and struckthrough.]

Matter which is either (a) all new or (b) repealed and reenacted appears in regular type.



05/01

STATE OF NEW HAMPSHIRE

In the Year of Our Lord Two Thousand Four

AN ACT relative to access to birth records.

Be it Enacted by the Senate and House of Representatives in General Court convened:

99:1 Disclosure of Information from Vital Records; Access to Original Birth Certificate by Adult Adoptees. Amend the introductory paragraph of RSA 5-C:16 and RSA 5-C:16, I and II to read as follows:

5-C:16 Disclosure of Information from Vital Records. In order to protect the integrity of vital records, to ensure their proper use, and to ensure the efficient and proper administration of the system of vital statistics, the registrar or the custodian of permanent local records shall not permit inspection of, or disclose information contained in vital statistics records, or copy or issue a copy of all or part of any such record unless he or she is satisfied that the applicant has a direct and tangible interest in such record. [However, under no circumstance shall any information relative to any adoption be disclosed or given out by the registrar or custodian of permanent local records or any other individual except pursuant to RSA 170-B:19, II.]

I. Upon written application by an adult adoptee, who was born in this state and who has had an original birth certificate removed from vital statistics records due to an adoption, the registrar shall issue to such applicant a non-certified copy of the unaltered, original certificate of birth of the adoptee, with procedures, filing fees and waiting periods identical to those imposed upon non-adopted citizens of the state.

I-a. The registrar shall prescribe and, upon request, shall make available to each birth parent named on the original birth certificate, a contact preference form on which the birth parent may state a preference regarding contact by an adoptee who is the birth child of the birth parent. Upon such a request, the registrar shall also provide the birth parent with an updated medical history form, which shall be completed and returned, together with the completed contact preference form, by the birth parent to the registrar.

I-b. The contact preference form shall provide the birth parent with the following options from which the birth parent shall select one:

(a) I would like to be contacted. I have completed a contact preference form and an updated medical history form and am filing them with the registrar as set forth in this form.

(b) I would prefer to be contacted only through an intermediary. I have completed a contact preference form and an updated medical history form and am filing them with the registrar as set forth in this form.

(c) I would prefer not to be contacted at this time. I have completed a contact preference form and an updated medical history form and am filing them with the registrar as set forth in this form.

I-c. When the registrar receives a complete contact preference form and a completed medical history form from a birth parent, the registrar shall match the contact preference form and the updated medical history form with the adoptee’s sealed birth certificate. The contact preference form and the updated medical history form shall then be attached to the adoptee’s sealed certificate.

I-d. Only a person authorized by the registrar to process an application made under paragraph I may process a contact preference form and an updated medical history form.

I-e. The [registrant] applicant, a member of his or her immediate family, his or her guardian, or respective legal representatives shall be considered to have a direct and tangible interest for purposes of this section. Others may demonstrate a direct and tangible interest when information is needed for determination or protection of a personal or property right.

II. The term “legal representative” shall include an attorney, physician, funeral director, or other authorized agent acting in behalf of the [registrant] applicant or his or her family.

99:2 Adoption; Confidentiality of Records; Access to Birth Certificate by Adult Adoptees. Amend RSA 170-B:19 to read as follows:

170-B:19 Confidentiality of Records. Notwithstanding any other law concerning public hearings and records:

I. All hearings held in adoptive proceedings shall be in closed court without admittance of any person other than essential officers of the court, the parties, their witnesses, counsel, and representatives of the agencies present to perform their official duties.

II. All papers and records, [including] excluding birth certificates, pertaining to the adoption, whether part of the permanent record of the court or of a file in the division, in an agency or office of the town clerk or the division of vital records administration are subject to inspection only upon written consent of the court for good cause shown, except as otherwise provided in this section. Except as provided in paragraph V, upon the request of an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], or a [natural] birth parent of an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], for information concerning the adult adoptee or [natural] birth parent, the court shall refer the adult adoptee or [natural] birth parent to the child-placing agency which completed the investigation required under RSA 170-B:14.

II-a. Upon the request of an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], or an adoptive parent, the department or agency involved in the adoption shall release information relating to the health history of the [natural] birth parent and blood relatives, or, non-identifying background information of the [natural] birth parent and blood relatives on forms approved by the department. The department or the agency shall delete any information from the health history or background which would tend to identify a [natural] birth parent.

II-b. Upon the signing of a relinquishment or consent, or at a later time, a [natural] birth parent may sign a release of information, which shall be filed in the records of the licensed child-placing agency conducting the investigation under RSA 170-B:14, authorizing the agency to release identifying information to an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age] who wishes to contact a [natural] birth parent. A separate form for the release of identifying information shall be signed by each [natural] birth parent. A [natural] birth parent may, at any time, revoke or amend such release of information. The person signing the release of information or its revocation, or the person’s agent, shall file a copy of such release or revocation with the child-placing agency, if any, and the court in which the adoption petition was filed. The release of information shall contain the social security number of the birth parent. The social security number shall be used only for purposes of locating the birth parent and shall not be otherwise released.

II-c. When an agency receives a request by an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], the agency shall, if a release of information has been signed and has not been revoked, release identifying information to the adult adoptee. The agency shall only release identifying information about a [natural] birth parent if that [natural] birth parent has:

(a) Signed a release; and

(b) Been contacted, if possible, by the agency, and reaffirmed the [natural] birth parent’s desire to be contacted.

II-d. When an agency receives a request by an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], or a [natural] birth parent of an adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], if no release of information has been signed, the agency may, after review of its records, attempt to contact the [natural] birth parent, or adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], to ascertain if they desire to release identifying information. If a [natural] birth parent who has consented to the adoption, or relinquished his or her parental rights to a child-placing agency, or whose parental rights were terminated pursuant to RSA 170-C, and the adult adoptee [over 21 years of age] agree to the release of identifying information, the agency shall release it. If the parties do not agree, or if they cannot be contacted, the adult adoptee [over 21 years of age], a [natural] birth parent, or the agency may petition the court having jurisdiction for the release of identifying information. The agency shall file a report of the agency’s action with the court. The court shall on its own motion or on request of any party hold a hearing on the issue of releasing identifying information. The agency involved shall receive notice of the hearing and be entitled to participate in any hearing under this section.

III. Any person violating this section shall, if a natural person, be guilty of a misdemeanor, and any other person shall be guilty of a felony.

IV. Nothing contained in this section shall prevent the department or the child placing agency from sharing with the adoptive parents all information it has available about the child being placed for adoption. The department or the child placing agency shall delete any information which would tend to identify a [natural] birth parent.

V. Upon written application by an adult adoptee who was born in this state and who has had an original birth certificate removed from vital statistics records due to an adoption, the registrar shall issue to such applicant a non-certified copy of the unaltered, original certificate of birth of the adoptee, with procedures, filing fees and waiting period identical to those imposed upon non-adopted citizens of the state.

99:3 Reference Change from Natural Parent to Birth Parent. Amend the following RSA provisions by replacing “natural parent” with “birth parent”: RSA 86:5-a, I; 170-B:1; 170-B:10-a; 170-B:14; 170-B:15; 170-B:20; 170-B:22; 186-C:14, II; 186-C:14-a; 458:17-d.

99:4 Effective Date. This act shall take effect January 1, 2005.

(Approved: Enacted in accordance with Article 44, Part II, N.H. Constitution, without signature of the Governor, May 12, 2004)

(Effective Date: January 1, 2005)



MAINE
LB 1084
(The Maine link is acting up. If you can't go to it directly try http://janus.state.me.us/legis/ and type in 1084 for bill status.

An Act To Provide Adult Adoptees Access to Their Original Birth Certificates
Be it enacted by the People of the State of Maine as follows:

Sec. 1. 18-A MRSA §9-310, first ¶, as enacted by PL 1995, c. 694, Pt. C, §7 and affected by Pt. E, §2, is amended to read:

Notwithstanding any other provision of law and except as provided in Title 22, section 2768, all Probate Court records relating to any adoption decreed on or after August 8, 1953 are confidential. The Probate Court shall keep records of those adoptions segregated from all other court records. If a judge of probate court determines that examination of records pertaining to a particular adoption is proper, the judge may authorize that examination by specified persons, authorize the register of probate to disclose to specified persons any information contained in the records by letter, certificate or copy of the record or authorize a combination of both examination and disclosure.

Sec. 2. 22 MRSA §2765, sub-§2-A, ¶C, as amended by PL 2001, c. 574, §24, is further amended to read:
C. When a new certificate of birth is established following adoption or legitimation, it must be substituted for the original certificate of birth. After that substitution, the original certificate of birth and the evidence of adoption are not subject to inspection except upon order of the Probate Court or the Superior Court or pursuant to section 2768. The application for legitimation may be released to persons listed on the original birth certificate upon completion of written application to the State Registrar of Vital Statistics or the registrar's designee.

Sec. 3. 22 MRSA §2765, sub-§5, as amended by PL 1979, c. 168, §2, is further amended to read:
5. Copies of original certificate. When the new certificate of birth is established, the state registrar shall provide each municipal clerk who is required by law to have a copy of the certificate of birth on file with a copy of the new certificate of birth. In the case of a Maine certificate of birth established for a person born in a foreign country, a copy of the certificate shall must be provided to and shall must be maintained on file by the clerk of the municipality where the adoptive parents resided on the date of the adoption. All copies of the original certificate in the custody of any municipal clerk shall must be sealed from inspection , except as provided in section 2768, or surrendered to the state registrar as he shall direct the state registrar directs.

Sec. 4. 22 MRSA §2768 is enacted to read:

§ 2768. Access to original birth certificate by adopted person

An adopted person, the adopted person's attorney or, if the adopted person is deceased, the adopted person's descendants may obtain a copy of that person's original certificate of birth from the State Registrar of Vital Statistics, referred to in this section as "the state registrar," in accordance with this section.
1. Requirements. The adopted person must be at least 18 years of age and have been born in this State.
2. Application. The adopted person must file a written application with and provide appropriate proof of identification to the state registrar.
3. Issuance of birth certificate and forms. Upon receipt of the written application and proof of identification pursuant to subsection 2 and fulfillment of the requirements of subsection 4, the state registrar shall issue a noncertified copy of the unaltered original certificate of birth to the applicant. If a contact preference or medical history form has been completed and submitted to the state registrar pursuant to section 2769, the state registrar also must provide that information.
4. Fees; waiting period. The state registrar may require a waiting period and impose a fee for the noncertified copy provided pursuant to subsection 3. The fees and waiting period imposed under this subsection must be identical to the fees and waiting period generally imposed on persons seeking their own birth certificates.
5. Forms; rules. The state registrar shall develop by rule the application form as required by this section and may adopt other rules for the administration of this section. Rules adopted pursuant to this subsection are routine technical rules as defined in Title 5, chapter 375, subchapter 2-A.

Sec. 5. 22 MRSA §2769 is enacted to read:

§ 2769. Contact preference and medical history forms

The State Registrar of Vital Statistics shall provide upon request each birth parent a contact preference form and a medical history form as described in this section.
1. Definitions. As used in this section, unless the context otherwise indicates, the following terms have the following meanings.
A. "Adoptee" means the person who is the subject of a birth certificate.
B. "Birth parent" means the person who is the biological parent of an adoptee and who is named as the parent on the original birth certificate of the adoptee.
C. "Contact preference form" means the form developed by the state registrar pursuant to subsection 3.
D. "Medical history form" means the form developed by the state registrar pursuant to subsection 2.
E. "State registrar" means State Registrar of Vital Statistics.
2. Medical history form. The state registrar shall develop and distribute upon request to birth parents a medical history form. A birth parent may use this form to describe the medical history of the birth parent. A birth parent shall fill out a medical history form if that birth parent fills out a contact preference form.
3. Contact preference form. The state registrar shall develop a contact preference form on which a birth parent may state a preference regarding contact by an adoptee. The form must contain the following statements from which the birth parent may choose only one.
A. "I would like to be contacted. I have completed this contact preference form and a medical history form and am filing them with the State Registrar of Vital Statistics."
B. "I would prefer to be contacted only through an intermediary. I have completed this contact preference form and a medical history form and am filing them with the State Registrar of Vital Statistics."
C. "I would prefer not to be contacted. I may change this preference by filling out another contact preference form. I have completed this contact preference form and a medical history form and am filing them with the State Registrar of Vital Statistics."
4. Attachment of forms to birth certificate; treatment. Upon receipt of a completed contact preference form or medical history form, the state registrar shall attach the completed form to the original birth certificate of the adoptee. A completed contact preference form and medical history form have the same level of confidentiality as the original birth certificate.
5. Forms; rules. The state registrar shall develop by rule the forms as required by this section and may adopt other rules for the administration of this section. Rules adopted pursuant to this subsection are routine technical rules as defined in Title 5, chapter 375, subchapter 2-A.

Sec. 6. Effective date. This Act takes effect January 1, 2009.

summary

This bill establishes a process by which an adult adopted person may obtain a copy of that person's original, unaltered birth certificate. This bill also allows a birth parent to include with the child's original birth certificate a form that indicates whether the parent wishes to be contacted by the child and a medical history form.

Monday, March 17, 2008

PHYLLIS SCHLAFLY vs DIABLO CODY: JUNO IS A FEMINIST PLAYBOOK

Poor Diablo Cody just can't get a break! That old bat shit Phyllis Schlafly hates Juno as much as adoptees and first parents do. Not for the same reasons, of course. Schlafly claims the yukky film is a playbook for penknife wielding feminist castrators in their battle to carve out a happy-ever-after male-free utopia:

The theme of this movie isn't love, romance, or respect for life, but the triumph of feminist ideology, i.e., the irrelevancy of men, especially fathers. The men in the movie are likable, but marginalized; beyond their sperms and their paychecks, they have no value worth considering, and can be thrown overboard by independent women and girls.

The movie portrays the adoption as a good outcome, but it is not. The baby will grow up without a real or even a surrogate father, and Paulie, the father, is not asked to approve the adoption or to sign the adoption papers.

Some day the child will ask why he does not have a father. The truthful answer is that feminism has made fatherlessness acceptable in our society.

But don't get too excited. Phyl the Pill, founder and president of The Eagle Forum, is the grande hag of the American Right. (Remember A Choice Not an Echo? The destruction of the ERA?) I saw her work her stuff at the 2002 Christian Coalition Road to Victory conference at the Washington Convention Center. She looked like she'd been made-up by an undertaker. The Tennessee Eagle Forum joined The National Council for Adoption, the Tennessee Christian Coalition, The Family Research Council, and other odious anti-adoptee organizations and individuals as an amicus to overturn Tennessee's semi-open records law (Doe v Sundquist). They lost. She's as much a friend of first parents (ie fornicators) and adoptees as NCFA.

UPDATE: March 19, 2008, 11:05. Another take on Juno by adoptee activist Jdean Strauss appears in today's USA Today (also archived on Adoptee Right News Blog.

Friday, March 14, 2008

AND NOW FOR SOMETHING REALLY PERVERSE: Adoptees for Adults Who Need Them

I've been meaning to post this for some time.

The Indian Association for the Promotion of Adoption and Child Welfare, in conjunction with Olgivy & Mather, Mumbai have produced a set of adoption ads--Adoption. You will receive more than you can ever give---that can only be termed "disturbing." (No, the picture to the left is not one of them!)

Olgivy and Mather should know better It's not some trash outfit. I happen to be very big on advertising aesthetics and am probably one of the few people reading this who actually consider advertising an art form. I can spend a lot of time perusing magazines for ads, not articles. That no one seems to have noted that this campaign, which was a 2006 finalist in the London Arts competition, screams pedophila, surprises me. I'm probably naive.

These are ads that only a Matthew Mancuso could love. Too bad he can't see them, but he's in the slammer for the next few decades for forcing Masha Allen (latest Masha entry with links to earlier posts) to nurture him and his camera on a daily basis until the FBI caught him. Perhaps if Masha's chief agency Child Promise, formerly known as Reaching Out Thru International Adoption, had picked up these ads it would still be in business.

An adoptee for every adult who needs one.


UPDATE 3/17/2008) : James Marsh has published his own blog on the ads: Girl's Little Daddy

SPRINGFIELD SHENNIGHANS: Illinois Adoptees Hustled and Shuffled

Tuesday, I wrote that Amendment 1 to HB 4623, would be heard by the Illinois House Adoption Reform Committee the next day. This amendment would add limited records access language to the CI fix-it bill which had already passed Rules. I was told by sponsor Rep. Sara Feigenholtz's office that this hearing was for language approval only. If approved, the amended bill would be published on the Illinois legislative site probably on Friday. I posted that information in good faith, wondering how it would really play out.

Now we know.

Late yesterday afternoon I was forwarded the email below sent by Melisha Mitchell, the putative author of the bill, with the news that HB 4623 had passed out of the Adoption Reform Committee, 8-1. The only opposition came from Illinois Right to Life.


Dear All:

I am happy to report that HB 4623, Illinois' obc access bill, was
passed out of the House Adoption Reform Committee today, 8 votes to
1. We had letters of support from most of the state's prominent
adoption agencies and adoptive parents' groups as well as the support
of the Dept. of Public Health, Dept. of Children and Family Services,
NASW, and IL Psychiatrists Assn.; in addition, the Chicago Bar Assn.,
the Illinois Bar Assn. and Catholic Charities (!!!!) all testified as
to their "neutrality" on the bill. The only opponent who spoke was
from the Illinois Right to Life organization (and he was so confused
as to what the bill did and did not do that his testimony was pretty
much a waste of everyone's time)...

Melisha

Well folks, we got snookered!

I have been told that late Tuesday night, the as-yet-to-be-approved amendment was posted on the Illinois leg. site. It must have been pretty late since I checked around 10:00PM and it wasn't there.

Now, checking the history of the bill on the leg. page, it appears that after Amendment 1 was approved by the committee, it was placed on the calendar for an immediate 2nd hearing and "brief debate." Then voted on. Besides Ms. Feigenholtz, four other committee members signed on as sponsors.

The claim that there is no opposition to HB 4623 is ludicrous. No one showed up to oppose the bill because no one knew what was in it. Professional adoptionist supporters, however, apparently had full access to the bill way ahead of time. Though Feigenholtz & Co held a press conference on Monday and said the bill would be voted on Thursday, Amendment 1 was unavailable to the public for review until late night, March 12. The public had only a press report to go by to determine what was supposedly in the bill. According to the leg. page, Amendment 1, in fact, wasn't even filed with the clerk until the next day--the day of the hearing, March 13. It is a little difficult to prepare meaningful testimony when there is no bill to read--especially when the amendment is 77 convoluted pages long. This is all politics as usual...but what are Feigenholtz & Co afraid of? Their own constituency?


I read the bill tonight, but shall refrain for now, lest the top of my head blow off, from trying to explain in detail what HB 4623 does to Illinois adoptees, other than what I wrote two days ago--taken from the Chicago Tribune. But...

HB 4623 continues to stomp the rights of all adoptees by doling out favors to the Worthy Select and locking up the Unworthy in state vaults. It extends the control of the state over adoptees' lives, their freedom of association, and autonomy. In a lame attempt to "balance rights" when there is no right to balance ours against, it makes things worse than they already are. It absolutely rejects the fundamental right of all adopted persons to equal legal status with the not adopted by rejecting our fundamental unrestricted right to identity, history, genealogy and our own public records. With it's innumerable bureaucratic forms and contact preferences and disclosure options and vetoes, it treats us as dangerous out-of-control people whose own information must be controlled by the state. Worst of all, HB 4623 codifies anonymity where none now exists. This is from the introduction:

The General Assembly recognizes that it is
11 the basic right of all persons to access their birth records,
12 and, to this end, supports public policy that allows an adult
13 adoptee to access his or her original birth certificate. The
14 General Assembly further recognizes that there are
15 circumstances under which a birth parent may have compelling
16 reasons for wishing to remain anonymous to a child he or she

09500HB4623ham001 - 2 - LRB AJO 47841 a

1 surrendered for adoption. In an effort to balance these
2 interests, the General Assembly supports public policy that
3 releases a non-certified copy of the original birth certificate
4 to an adult adopted person upon request unless a specific
5 request for anonymity has been filed with the Registry by a
6 birth parent named on the original birth certificate....

Why does it take 77 pages of ass-backwards jibberish to restore birth records to SOME? Oregon's Ballot Measure 58 was two sentences:

Upon receipt of a written application to the state registrar, any adopted person 21 years of age and older born in the state of Oregon shall be issued a certified copy of his/her unaltered, original and unamended certificate of birth in the custody of the state registrar, with procedures, filing fees, and waiting periods identical to those imposed upon non-adopted citizens of the State of Oregon pursuant to ORS 432.120 and 432.146. Contains no exceptions.

New Hampshire and Maine restored records access to ALL their state's adoptees in a page or so. (I don't have Alabama's bill handy, but it wasn't very long either). But then, Measure 58 was the voice of the people led by adoptees. Alabama, New Hampshire, and Maine were adoptee-led bills sponsored by legislators who actually believed in the rights of adoptees and carefully shepherded their bills past the wolves. Those simple bills were neither an ego trip nor tied to pecuniary benefits of adoption industry tragedy pimps.

Maine State Senator Paula Benoit says of legislators, "Once they understand the importance of every adoptee having access to their original birth certificates, everything else becomes simple language."

Unfortunately, Wednesday's fast track of HB 4623 denied the Adoption Reform Committee the genuine voice of the adopted and their families and the simplicity of that message. Not one single adoptee rights organization testified one way or the other, and from Mitchell's note it seems that no individual adoptees spoke either. Instead, the committee was told by social engineers, adoption industry hacks, and adoptive parents that it's fine with them if we get our identity rights back. At least, some of us. And on their terms.

With friends like these...

STAY TUNED FOR MORE!

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

ILLINOIS: TRAINWRECK UPDATE

I spoke to Steve in Sara Feigenholtz' office this afternoon. As I suspected, the current HB 4623 (CI fix-it bill) will become the records "access" bill. The hearing tomorrow is for reading and approval of the new access records language--which will become Amendment One. If passed the new bill will go up on the Illinois Legislative site probably on Friday. Hearings on that will be scheduled later. When the new bill goes up, I'll post the link here.

After that, the fun begins.

UPDATE 3/13/08, 10:05 PM
Melisha Mitchell has posted a copy of the proposed amendment on her White Oak Foundation website. The amendment is 77 pages long! Here is her fun FAQ on the bill which is being flogged as "a simple fee-free way for an adoptee who was born in Illinois to request a non-certified copy of his or her original birth certificate."

Well, not ALL adoptees!




ILLINOIS: THAT TRAIN KEEPS A ROLLIN'--MORE PIECE-A-CRAP LEGISLATION

HEADS UP!

According to Kristen Kridel in Tuesday's Chicago Tribune, Sara Feigenholtz's alleged "records access" bill will be heard in the Adoption Reform Committee of the Illinois House on Thursday. (SF is the committee chair). Feigenholtz and professional confidential intermediary money hound Melisha Mitchell gushed proud during their Monday press conference, which included former Denver Bronco's fullback and adoptee Howard Griffith and Chicagoland radio personality Steve Cochran. Ms. Feigenholtz, in her prepared speech, glommed a line from DMC, without credit,

Chapter 1 of everyone else's life begins with a birth certificate, a document I and everyone behind me are prohibited from having.

WLS elaborated:

"We have been deprived of our history and our identity. We have been deprived of the chapter that everyone else in this state simply gets."

Ms. Feigenholtz may talk the talk, but she doesn't walk the walk. Under her cowardly compromise bill some adoptees are more equal than others. Since the bill doesn't seem to be on the Illinois Legislative webpage (more about that in a minute) we can only judge from the summary posted in the Trib:

  • Anyone born before January 1946 will get their original birth certificates immediately (their records were sealed retroactively)
  • Anyone born after January 1, 1946 will have to wait until April 1, 2009 so that terrified "birth parents" will have time to submit a (guess what?) disclosure veto!
  • Those who submit a disclosure veto are required to send a medical questionnaire with it.
  • Those finicky folks who don't want their own kids to even acquire a medical history can pay a $40 fee to the state to remove their name from the obc. (Where in the world did that come from?)
  • Those poor bastards who are slapped with a disclosure veto can go to court 5 years from that date to initiate a search for updated medical information free of charge.
The Trib reported that the bill will receive a hearing on Thursday in the Adoption Reform Committee. The only problem is, it's not on the online schedule. What will be heard is HB 4571, a first parent compensation bill and HB 4623, Feigenholtz's CI fix-it bill. If records access has been folded into that bill, it is not reflected in the bill as published on the web. If it is a separate bill, nobody I know can find it doing a keyword search. I've spoken to several adoption reform organizations. None like the high-handed way this came down. None like that they were treated like bad little bastard idiots, expected to sit in the corner, shut up, and be grateful for scraps from the grown-ups table. None support this bill nor do they intend to. Barring the possibility that a wrong hearing date was reported, the short notice appears to be a way to ameloriate organized opposition from the putative beneficiaries of Feigenholtz/Mitchell largess.

Right now, whether the bill is posted or not, or even if it gets a fast-track hearing this week is inconsequential to the larger issue: Illinois adoptees getting screwed again by one of their own. As my old friend Dr. Steve White, who worked on Illinois records access during the Big Feigenholtz Screw era of the 1990s posted on my February 21, blog, a Illinois: Trainwreck Ahead for Records Rights, "I can tell you that Rep. Feigenholtz 'gets' it: she just doesn't want it."

I'm calling Ms.. Feigenholtz's office in the morning to see if I can find out what's going on. If indeed the bill is being heard I'll post a quick and dirty action alert here so you can voice you opinion to the Adoption Reform Committee.

See Adoptee Rights News Blog for an up-to-date archive of adoptee rights article.

Friday, March 07, 2008

LETTERS, WE GET LETTERS....MOTHERS REACT TO NEW JERSEY CATHOLIC CONFERENCE PLEA FOR STORIES

Letters have been pouring in to Respect Life Today and the New Jersey Catholic Conference since we and others posted the NJCC request for natural mother stories. The conference had hoped the letters, replete with horror stories of the speculative knock on the door and ruined lives, would boost the Catholic Church's sealed records agenda. Well, letters were written, but not the kind the conference was looking for! Instead of cowering in the closet, proud and unafraid mothers have come forward with the universal message: We don't want or need your protection. Unseal our children's records!

Many letters have appeared on lists. I have been thrilled and moved at the wonderfulness and honesty of the writing. Though I've probably heard hundreds of first mother narratives, none of those has moved me as much as these articulate letters written by mothers on behalf of their surrendered daughters and sons--and themselves.

One has to wonder if the church hierarchy and its policy wonks have any concept of what was done to women who sought their help in time of personal crisis and indecision. Or do they care?

Adoptee Amy, with permission, has posted a selection of these letters as a blog entry, aptly titled, Hey, Catholic Charities, It's Your Turn!

If you haven't yet written to Respect Life Today or contacted Marlene Lao-Collins at the conference, I urge you to do so. Contact information is available on the link to Respect Life Today article. And send a copy of your letter to Amy.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

BE CAREFUL OF WHAT YOU ASK FOR! NEW JERSEY CATHOLIC CONFERENCE WANTS TO HEAR FIRST MOTHER STORIES!


For the record, Bastardette and Bastard Nation oppose the tortuously compromised S 611, passed by the New Jersey Senate on Monday 30-7. The bill allows some adoptees to get their original birth certificates while others, slapped with a disclosure veto, get the sanitized white-out version. There are other restrictions, too. I haven't written about the Jersey situation lately, but my blog Settling for Less Than You Deserve on the 2006 look-alike bill will fill you in. (For more NJ entries just type in to Bastardette's Blogger search engine).

That said, it's been entertaining in a sick sort of way to watch New Jersey's adoptee haters, legalized child traffickers, religious conversionists, and identity thieves bloviate over ungrateful adoptees and their rights. To hear the Catholic Church's affiliate hornswogglers -- The Catholic Conference, New Jersey Right to Life,and the Knights of Columbus--talk, even limited government respect for adoptees and their rights will cause the state to break off and fall into the Atlantic.

Patrick J. Brannigan, Executive Director of the New Jersey Catholic Conference, for instance, holds the quaint belief that first parents just "move on" after surrender since the state seals their pasts as tight as a tomb, leaving them to tip toe through the tulips permanently. On January 24, he testified before the New Jersey Senate :

The assurance of secrecy regarding the identity of the natural parents enables them to place the child for adoption with a reputable agency, with the knowledge that their actions and motivations will not become public knowledge... Assured of this privacy by the State, the natural parents are free to move on and attempt to rebuild their lives after what must be a traumatic and emotionally tormenting episode in their lives."

This, of course, is nothing new. But these people are scared. Really really really really scared. So scared that...

Last month,Mr. Brannigan and Marlene Lao-Collins, director of the Catholic Conference's social concerns office ramped up their tripefurious crusade. They issued an alert (only now making adoptanet rounds through the Trenton Diocese Respect Life Today website ) to "birth parents," inviting them to contact the Conference office, confidentially, of course, to help create for legislators a compendium of anonymous and speculative horror stories about the ghastly consequences of their very own flesh and blood offspring being treated legally the same as the not-adopted.

This call to action sounds pretty dangerous to me. Apparently, Mr. Brannigan and Ms. Lao-Collins have never read The Girls Who Went Away or heard of Origins-USA, CUB, and unaffiliated pissed off first parents who would love nothing more than to tie up their phone lines and stuff the Conference's ears full of stories of coercion, exploitation, threats, shame, secrets, and unethical and illegal baby-taking by its Catholic Charities subsidiary.

Mr. Brannigan sees himself as the spokesman for emotionally tormented and traumatized women who place their children for adoption., except when Ms. Lao-Collins speaks for adoptive parents who "have taken into their home a child whom they will regard as their own and whom they will love and raise as an integral part of their family unit."

Thankfully, Pat and Mar haven't deemed emotionally tormented and traumatized placees important enough to speak for them, too, though Ms. Lao-Collins assures us, "As the friend of several adult adoptees, I understand their desire to know their origins." Some of my best friends are...

Ms. Lao-Collins (or her surrogate at Respect Life) says that the Conference wants the legislature to act as a "Solomon" and rely on "the testimony of the mother to render a verdict." (no mention of dads). That is, the Conference wants the legislature to listen to the tumbrells of terrified "birth mothers" they expect to ring their phones off the hook, and to grant them a special right as a class, that no other mother or adult has over another adult: the right to bar the state from issuing them a non-fictive birth certificate.

SOLOMON'S JUDGEMENT
Ms. Lao-Collins needs to spend more time with her Old Testament and less time recruiting anonymous headbag ladies to do her dirty work.

The Biblical "Solomon's Judgment" (1 Kings 3: 16-28) (ESV) is the tale of two prostitutes who come to King Solomon asking him to decide the fate of a single baby boy. The women say they live in the same house and both gave birth recently. Soon after the births, one woman accidentally smothered her newborn in her sleep. In anguish and jealously, she exchanged her dead baby with the live baby of the other woman as she slept. The first woman wants her baby returned to her. The second woman denies the accusation, calls the baby her own, and wants to keep him. Who's telling the truth?

After ruminating a bit, Solomon calls for his sword, declaring there is only one fair solution: the baby must be split in two with each woman receiving half. The boy's true mother cries out, "Oh my lord, give her the live child - and by no means put him to death." The second mother counters, "He shall be neither mine nor yours; divide it." Solomon quickly sees that the first mother is the true mother whose only interest is to protect her child. The second mother is revealed to be a jealous liar and sent away empty handed and disgraced.

Boy, could any worse metaphor for adoption have been chosen to push the Conference's agenda? Who thought it would be a good idea for the Catholic Conference to compare with prostitutes (in the King James Version, they are harlots), the very women, who for centuries their church has stigmatized, declared sexually transgressive and unfit for motherhood, locked up in maternity homes, convents, and laundries and taken their children from them?

The narrative of Solomon's Judgment when interpreted through the lens of contemporary adoption practice stands the New Jersey Catholic's Conference Solomonic plea on its head: the successful attempt of a natural mother to overturn the fraudulent adoption of her son. When the king offers to slice and dice the baby to give him to both, the natural mother lays down her plea because she wants what is best for her child, and thus, "loses" through love. The adoptive mother--(or better yet, the Catholic Conference?)--agrees to the scheme. If I can't have him nobody can. The king seeing through the second woman's ruse, returns the baby to his rightful mother. Many a first mother's dream!

BE CAREFUL!
Now the New Jersey Catholic Conference, even though it's none of their business, believes that the state should keep the birth records of all its adoptees sealed from them. But what happens when the first mothers they so romantically portray as meek and scared, and recruit to their lair, tell them to go to hell, get your hands off my kid's life,nose out of our lives, and unseal the records? That's s just what first moms are doing: sending emails to Ms. Lao-Collins and Respect Life Today--not with the desired horror stories of exposure and shame but of adoption industry abuse. You can do it, too. Just go over to the link to the article for contact information.

We'll see just how much the New Jersey Catholic Conference let's these mothers "render the verdict."



Sunday, March 02, 2008

NEW HAMPSHIRE: REST IN PEACE MIKE WHALLEY

Bastard Nation is sad to learn of the death of Mike Walley, former Deputy Speaker of the New Hampshire House.

Mike was a true friend to adoptees everywhere.
He had no personal relationship to adoption. He simply believed that all adopted people should be treated like the non-adopted. His passing is a great loss to us personally and to the adoptee rights movement everywhere.

New Hampshire State Rep. Janet Allen writes of Mike:

At the time of our bill, he was Deputy Speaker of the House and he always understood that our bill was about civil rights not reunion. He fought hard for our bill and without his steadfast support in the House, I do not think it would have passed. With his position in leadership he was able to lend all of his clout and all of his energy to our bill. He will always be my hero. I went to high school with Mike, so we have known each other for many years. I hope that you will all join me in remembering Mike today & recognizing what an important person he was in our quest for equal access.

I think that his family would find comfort in hearing what a special person he was and it is my wish to inundate them with cards. Would you be willing to send a card to the family to let them know how much we all appreciated what Mike did for our cause? If so, maybe you could just send your sympathies along with a thank you for his work on SB335 ~ the adult adoptee access bill. Nothing long, just a couple of sentences so that the family will know that he touched many lives including some outside of NH.

You can send your message of condolence to his family at:

The Whalley Family
5 Fisher Road
Alton Bay, NH 03810


His wife's name is Purr Whalley
Daughter - Caitlin Shea (married)
Son - John Whalley

Today's Boston Globe covers Mike's life and career.

I'll link to other articles when they appear.

NOTE: Some of the links, especially the Concord Monitor links, are acting up so you may have to go to the source directly and do a search).)

Manchester Union Leader, March 3, 2008, House Minority Leader Tried to United NH GOP.

Concord Monitor, March 3, 2008, Mike Whalley

Concord Monitor, March 3, 2008, Whalley, GOP Leader, Dies

Boston Globe, March 3, 2008, Tributes Pour in for Whalley

All American Patriots, March 3, 2008, Gov. Lynch Orders Flags at Half Staff for Republican Leader Mike Whalley

New Hampshire Public Radio, March 3, 2008, Mike Whalley memorial (audio)

Foster's Daily Democrat, March 3, 2008, House Minority Leader Whalley Remembered as an Ardent Statesman

WMUR-TV, Manchester, March 6, 2008, Hundreds Gather to Remember Rep. Whalley

Concord Monitor, March 6,2008, He Set an Example

Concord Monitor, March 7,2008, Before Whalley was a Bigwig, He Sure Could Have Fun

Laconia Citizen, March 8, 2008, Rep. Mike Whalley Remembered. (A wonderful memorial to Mike.)

Concord Monitor, March 9, 2008, Two Sad House Farewells